Sexless For 10 Years | Erin Keating: How I Left My Marriage At 50 And Found Sexual Freedom | #157
"I Couldn't Even Bring Myself to Orgasm": How One Woman's Sexless Marriage Led to Her Most Empowered Decade
The TV executive who lost herself in corporate success and a loveless marriage---then found sexual liberation at 50
What do you do when you wake up at 50 and realize you’ve been living someone else’s life for decades?
For award-winning television producer Erin Keating, that moment came during a COVID hospitalization that nearly killed her. After 20 years climbing the corporate ladder and 10 years in a completely sexless marriage, she found herself staring at a hospital ceiling, wondering: "Is this it? Is this what I want?"
The answer was a resounding no.
The Wake-Up Call That Changed Everything
Erin’s story begins like so many others---a successful career, a picture-perfect marriage, twin teenagers, and a beautiful house. From the outside, she had it all. But behind closed doors, she was running on empty.
"I was working too much and running away from my relationship through work," Erin shares in her conversation with Sex Reimagined Podcast hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown. "We had been together for 20 years, married for 17, and the last 10, the intimacy had just gone."
The cosmic timing was unmistakable: hospitalization at 49, turning 50 just weeks later, followed by six months of failed couples counseling, separation, divorce, and finally, a layoff that stripped away her corporate identity entirely.
"Life exactly handed me this blank slate and said, okay, like, what do you want?"
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From Sexual Desert to Sexual Awakening
What happened next challenges every assumption about sexuality and aging. Erin, who describes herself as "always very orgasmic," had reached a point where she couldn’t even bring herself to climax during self-pleasure.
"I felt such a profound loss of sexuality. I really felt so disconnected from my body, from my pleasure," she explains.
Her path back to sexual connection began in the most modern way possible---through an anonymous sexting app. With no picture and complete anonymity, she posted a simple but powerful message: "I’m newly free after 10 years of no sex and a long marriage, and I’m looking for someone to bring me back to life."
The response was immediate and overwhelming.
The Dating Revolution: Multiple Partners, Clear Boundaries
What followed was a sexual education that would have been impossible in her younger years. Erin began dating multiple people simultaneously---something she’d never done before---using each relationship as an opportunity to practice communication skills she’d never developed in marriage.
"I learned to say what’s so for me, regardless of whatever the outcome was gonna be," she explains. "I was not raised to have needs. I was raised to accommodate."
Her dating strategy became refreshingly practical:
- Always meet in public first
- Use anonymous messaging apps like Telegram instead of giving out phone numbers
- Communicate expectations about condoms upfront
- Practice radical honesty about what she wanted
Discovering Dominance and Submission
Perhaps the most surprising part of Erin’s journey was discovering her submissive nature. After years of being "the boss" in professional settings, she craved surrender in intimate moments.
"In my sexuality, I’m much more submissive. Please fucking take care of me and have a moment in my life where I’m not in charge. That’s freedom for me."
This led her to explore BDSM through FetLife, where she connected with experienced partners who understood the importance of communication, consent, and boundaries. The structure of the kink community, she discovered, created a safer space for exploration than traditional dating.
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The Business of Reinvention
Erin’s transformation wasn’t limited to her personal life. After getting laid off, she channeled her expertise into her podcast "Hotter Than Ever" and is now launching "Broad Collective," a network for women entrepreneurs who need to build their personal brands.
"I had been licensing my voice, my evangelism, my enthusiasm, my passion to these companies for years and years. I thought what would happen if I actually just said all the things I really think?"
Single Parenting with Boundaries
Throughout her dating renaissance, Erin maintained strict boundaries between her personal life and her role as a mother to teenage twins. No partner has met her children, and she’s clear about her priorities.
"No one meets my kids," she states firmly. The decision to potentially introduce someone to her children would only come after a long-term, committed relationship where integration feels natural rather than forced.
The Science Behind Her Success
Erin’s story aligns with research showing that women often experience increased sexual satisfaction in midlife. Factors contributing to this include:
- Freedom from pregnancy concerns
- Greater self-knowledge and confidence
- Reduced people-pleasing behaviors as estrogen drops during menopause
- Financial independence and career success
"Women are the most successful generation who have ever lived on planet earth. We are the most educated. We make the most money," Erin declares. "Take the fucking reins."
The Reality Check: It's Not All Easy
Erin doesn’t romanticize the challenges of midlife dating. She openly discusses navigating erectile dysfunction with partners in their 50s, the emotional complexity of falling in love again, and the practical realities of managing multiple relationships.
"Sometimes they’re hard and sometimes they’re not. Sometimes they take medicine and sometimes they don’t. And sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. As long as that isn’t the defining thing in your intimate connection, if it’s not a problem for them, it’s not a problem for me."
The Permission You’ve Been Waiting For
Erin’s message to women considering major life changes is clear: trust yourself.
"I didn’t think I could get divorced. I didn’t think I could be a single mom. I didn’t think I could live without this corporate paycheck and status. All of the things I thought would break me or redefine me in a way that I wouldn’t like. Turns out that’s not true. I really like myself."
Her advice for anyone stuck in an unfulfilling situation: "Do whatever weird thing you want to do, live whatever life you wanna live. It does not matter what people think of you."
What’s Next?
Today, Erin describes herself as someone with "lovers"—a word she chooses deliberately for its empowering connotations. She’s open to love but not dependent on it, interested in companionship but not desperate for it.
"I want love, I want relationship. I don’t know that I want to live with someone while my kids are still at home. Maybe once they’re gone, I would live with someone, but maybe not."
The Takeaway: It's Never Too Late to Start Over
Erin Keating’s story isn’t just about divorce or dating---it’s about the radical act of choosing yourself at any age. Her journey from a sexless marriage to sexual empowerment, from corporate executive to entrepreneur, from accommodating others to honoring her own needs, proves that transformation is possible at any stage of life.
Whether you’re trapped in a sexless marriage, considering a career change, or simply wondering if it’s possible to reinvent yourself after 50, Erin’s story offers both inspiration and practical guidance. The most authentic version of yourself might just be waiting on the other side of the scariest decision you’ve been avoiding.
Ready to hear the full conversation? Listen to this episode of Sex Reimagined with hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown for more intimate details about Erin’s transformation, practical dating advice, and insights into building a business around your authentic voice.
If you’re considering major life changes or dealing with relationship challenges, remember that professional support can be invaluable. Consider speaking with a therapist, coach, or trusted advisor as you navigate your own journey.
EPISODE LINKS:
- Erin's Hotter than Ever Podcast
- Erin's Broad Collective for Female Entrepreneurs
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