She Thought Sex Would Never Feel Good Again

She Thought Sex Would Never Feel Good Again—Until She Discovered This Hidden Key to Pleasure

Sarah stared at the ceiling, her partner's heavy breathing the only sound in the dark bedroom. Another night of going through the motions, another night of feeling like a stranger in her own body. "What's wrong with me?" she whispered to herself, the familiar ache of disconnection settling in her chest.

If this story sounds familiar, you're not alone—and more importantly, you're not broken.

The Silent Epidemic No One Talks About

Millions of women (and men) experience what experts call "sexual numbness"—that devastating disconnect where sex becomes something you do rather than something you feel. You show up physically, but emotionally and energetically, you're somewhere else entirely.

For Sarah, like so many others, this numbness didn't happen overnight. It was the result of years of stored trauma, chronic stress, and a nervous system stuck in protective mode. Her body had learned to shut down sensation as a survival mechanism, but now that same protection was keeping her from experiencing the pleasure and intimacy she craved.

When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough

"I've been to so many therapists," Sarah confided during her first session with breathwork coach Stevie Wright. "I understand why I have these issues, but nothing actually shifts. I still feel nothing during sex."

This is the frustrating reality for countless people who've done years of traditional therapy. While understanding your patterns is valuable, trauma isn't stored in your mind—it's stored in your body. And that's where breathwork and somatic healing create the breakthrough that talk therapy alone can't provide.

As Stevie explains in our latest Sex Reimagined podcast episode: "There's a goldmine underneath the fog. When you actually get the fog to lift, what you find is feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling. And then essence. Life force, connection to self."

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The Breakthrough That Awakened Her Body

Three months into working with Stevie, Sarah experienced what she later called her "awakening moment." During a guided breathwork session, she felt sensation in her pelvis for the first time in years—not sexual sensation exactly, but aliveness. Warmth. Energy moving through her body like a gentle river.

"I started crying," Sarah remembers. "Not from sadness, but from relief. My body was still there. I could still feel."

This is the power of breathwork for sexual healing—it doesn't just address symptoms, it goes directly to the root cause: the frozen pockets of energy and emotion trapped in your nervous system since childhood.

Why Your Orgasms Keep Disappearing

One of the most heartbreaking patterns Stevie sees in her practice is women who get close to climax, only to have their orgasm vanish at the crucial moment. "It's so disappointing," clients tell her. "I feel like it's right there, and then… nothing."

The culprit? Held breath and muscle tension.

"When we hold our breath or breathe shallowly during arousal, we short-circuit the sexual energy," explains co-host Leah Piper. "The breath is literally the vehicle for moving pleasure through your body."

The solution is surprisingly simple: conscious breathing and body relaxation during arousal. Instead of gripping and holding when pleasure builds, you learn to breathe into the sensation, allowing it to expand throughout your entire body.

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Breaking Generational Patterns Through the Body

But breathwork for intimacy goes beyond just better orgasms. It's about healing patterns that have been passed down through generations—the inherited shame around pleasure, the learned responses to stress, the unconscious beliefs about worthiness and safety.

During couples sessions, Stevie witnesses profound healing when partners see each other's vulnerable, wounded parts. "When I can get her into that tender place and actually get to the unmet need motivating her defense mechanism, and he can witness it… that's when everything shifts," she shares.

This isn't just individual healing—it's generational trauma healing that breaks cycles for your children and their children.

The Science Behind the Restoration

Here's what happens in your body during somatic breathwork:

• Nervous system regulation: Proper breathing activates your parasympathetic nervous system, moving you out of fight-or-flight and into rest-and-digest
• Increased oxygenation: Deep breathing brings oxygen to areas of your body that have been cut off from sensation
• Energy circulation: Conscious breathing moves stuck energy through your system, dissolving those "frozen pockets" of old trauma
• Present moment awareness: Focused breathing pulls you out of mental loops and into embodied presence

Sarah's New Reality

Six months later, Sarah's life looked completely different. Not just her sex life—though that renewal was remarkable—but her entire relationship to her body, her partner, and herself.

"I feel like I'm finally living in my own skin," she says. "Sex isn't something I endure anymore. It's this beautiful way I connect with myself and my partner. Sometimes I cry during orgasm now—not from pain, but from gratitude."

Your Breakthrough Is Waiting

If Sarah's story resonates with you, know that your capacity for healing and pleasure isn't broken—it's just buried. The same life force that created you is still there, waiting to be awakened through the simple act of conscious breathing.

You don't need to spend years in therapy or accept numbness as your reality. Breathwork for sexual healing offers a direct path back to sensation, back to pleasure, back to the vibrant, embodied person you're meant to be.

Ready to Begin Your Own Journey

🎧 Listen to our full conversation with Stevie Wright and hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown on the Sex Reimagined Podcast, where she shares specific breathwork techniques and somatic healing practices you can start using today.

Plus, grab Leah's FREE gift: "How to Never Miss Another Clitoral Orgasm Again"—the breath-based technique that's helping women reclaim their pleasure at moreloveworks.com/mlw-freegift

Your body remembers how to feel pleasure. Your nervous system knows how to relax and receive. The path back to sensation starts with your very next breath.

Don't wait another day to reclaim what's rightfully yours: a life of embodied pleasure, deep intimacy, and authentic aliveness. Your future self—and your relationships—will thank you.

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EPISODE LINKS

• Stevie’s | Online Breath Channel 
• Stevie’s | Website
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• Stevie’s | TikTok
• Leah’s Free Gift | Never miss another clitorial orgasm again