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From 70-Year-Old Virgin to Sexual Revolutionary: One Woman's Courageous Journey Through Surrogate Partner Therapy

Faythe Huston woke up at 70 with a question that would change everything: “How the hell did I become a 70-year-old virgin?”

What started as an uncomfortable realization became a revolutionary 18-month journey of sexual awakening that challenges every assumption you might have about sexuality, aging, and what's possible when you finally decide to claim pleasure as your birthright.

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In the latest episode of the Sex Reimagined Podcast, hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown bring together all three people involved in Faythe's transformation through surrogate partner therapy. For the first time, you'll hear directly from Faythe (the client), Dan Powers (the surrogate partner therapist), and Deb Azorski (the therapist) about how this remarkable journey unfolded.

When Religious Shame Meets Sexual Curiosity

Raised in a conservative religious family where pleasure was forbidden territory, Faythe spent seven decades believing her sexuality was something to suppress, not explore. But at 70, an energy emerged from her unconscious that wouldn't be silenced.

“I just started reading, and looking, and listening,” Faythe explains. “I came across an article about sexuality, and there was a link to surrogate partner therapy. I'd never heard of that. What the hell is this? I clicked on the link and thought, who would ever do that? Little did I know that six months later I would be doing that.”

Her initial reaction after her first consultation with Dan Powers? “Hell no. I'm not doing this.” But the calling persisted.

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The Reality of Surrogate Partner Therapy

Unlike Hollywood portrayals that suggest surrogate partner therapy involves just a few sessions, the reality is far more comprehensive. Faythe worked with Dan and Deb for a year and a half, using what's called the triadic model where three professionals support one person's sexual healing journey.

Dan Powers, who has over 15 years of experience as a sex educator and intimacy coach, explains his approach to building safety: “I do a bunch of little things that they're not even aware of. Like I don't sit in front of the door, I give them access to an escape. We go super, super slowly.”

The process involves four pillars: building foundational trust, whole-body sensual connection, sexual education, and practical application. Each step is carefully paced according to the client's readiness, with weekly therapy sessions providing emotional support throughout.

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The Moment Everything Changed

Describing her first visit to Dan's studio space, Faythe's voice fills with emotion: “I look across the room and there is the bed. I can see the Emerald City. I can see the Holy Grail and it is mine. I deserve this. And I was scared to death.”

That bed represented more than physical intimacy. It symbolized decades of denied pleasure, suppressed desires, and the revolutionary idea that sexual fulfillment was her right, not a privilege reserved for others.

Healing Beyond the Physical

Working with therapist Deb Azorski proved essential to processing the emotional complexity of this journey. “Deb and Dan have created such a safe space,” Faythe shares through tears. “I could not have found two more perfect people to walk with me through this journey.”

The therapeutic support helped Faythe navigate not just the practical aspects of sexual education, but the deeper work of healing religious trauma and expanding her understanding of what was possible for her life.

The Power of Going Slowly

One of the most striking aspects of Faythe's story is how Dan's insistence on taking time actually built trust. When Faythe was eager to rush toward the physical aspects of the work, Dan held firm boundaries.

“Dan's container was sort of, no, we're not going there yet. No, we're not ready yet,” explains Deb. “That built so much trust for Faythe that he, with grace and kindness, was going to hold this really beautiful boundary.”

This approach stands in stark contrast to a culture that often rushes toward sexual encounters without building the foundation of safety and trust that allows authentic pleasure to emerge.

A Revolutionary Declaration at 70

Perhaps the most powerful moment in their conversation comes when Faythe shares her life philosophy transformation: “Pleasure is our birthright. When I turned 70, I said, this is the decade of pleasure, not the year of pleasure. It is the decade of pleasure. In the Bible, it says we are put on this earth to toil. And I said, no more toiling, no more toiling. This is about pleasure.”

This declaration represents more than personal transformation. It challenges ageist assumptions about sexuality and offers permission for others to reclaim their own relationship with pleasure, regardless of their age or background.

Navigating Attachment and Endings

One of the most emotionally complex aspects of surrogate partner therapy involves managing the inevitable attachment that develops between client and surrogate. Faythe was honest about her fears: “I don't want to hurt when it's over.”

Dan's response offers wisdom for anyone facing the end of meaningful relationships: “Every relationship ends one way or the other. So it's not forever.” He and Deb helped model what a healthy, loving completion looks like, where both parties can honor what was shared while moving forward.

What This Means for the Rest of Us

Faythe's journey raises profound questions about sexual education and healing. As Leah reflects during the conversation: “What would our sexual lives look like if we worked with a surrogate and a therapist when we're coming of age to get all this beautiful, accurate information about boundaries, about consent, about desire, permission, safety, exploration, shame-free conversations?”

Her story offers hope for anyone who feels it's “too late” to heal sexual trauma, explore their sexuality, or challenge the limitations placed on them by religious or cultural conditioning.

The Courage to Begin

For those inspired by Faythe's journey, Dan Powers can be found at PleasureEngineer.com, and Deb Azorski at CouplesTherapistBoulder.com. The International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA) offers resources for finding qualified surrogate partner therapists.

Faythe's final message resonates beyond the realm of sexuality: “I found that space where there's no encumbrances, there's no doubts, there's no fear, there's just total peace and total bliss. And I just hope people can find that. It doesn't have to be this way, whatever way.”

At 70, Faythe Huston proved that sexual evolution doesn't stop at any age. Her willingness to share this intimate journey reminds us that pleasure, healing, and transformation are always possible when we have the courage to answer the call of our deepest desires.

Listen to the complete conversation on the Sex Reimagined Podcast wherever you stream podcasts, and discover what's possible when you finally decide that pleasure is, indeed, your birthright.

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