#62 - Dr. Alison Ash: Conquering Insecurities & Techniques for Oral Sex Success

Hosts Dr. Willow and Leah got down & dirty with sex educator Dr. Alison Ash, who is a trauma-informed intimacy coach, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. In this juicy conversation all about optimizing oral pleasure, letting go of expectations, & getting out of your head, we dived into the skills needed to be masterful at giving & receiving oral sex. With compassion, communication, and the techniques we uncovered with Dr. Ash, you can leave your partner gasping in ecstasy and eager to return the favor. 

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS TO AMPLIFY THE ORAL MAGIC:

• Don’t skip the warmup! Tease and torment with thigh massage and lip nibbles.
• Flicker a pointed tongue for intense sensation, or go broad with a soft, flat tongue.   
• Allow laughter to release any tension; this is about having fun, not being perfect.
• Savor their scent, and describe aloud how amazing their genitals look and taste.
• Lavish licks on the areas you desire most. This transfers ravenous, worshipful energy that facilitates deeper arousal and connection.
• Plus, many more actionable techniques you will want to try tonight!

EPISODE LINKS

• Dr. Ash’s Website - TurnON.love
• Course - Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game | 4-week course for couples Use the discount code LoveSex for $100 off. 
• Course - Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills | 8-week course starting in Jan 2024. Use discount code LoveSex for $100 off. 
• Course - On-demand workshops (including How to Eat Pu$sy like a Champ)
• 1:1 with Dr. Ash - Coaching info 

TIME STAMPS

0:00 Introducing Dr. Alison Ash  

1:02 The Interview with Dr. Alison Ash  

4:07 Oral Sex - Simple or Complicated?  

5:46 What We Enjoy Changes and Prioritizing Communication  

6:51 Oral Sex - Three Areas of Focus  

11:40 This or That Questions & Flat v.s. Flat Tongue  

15:47 Don't Forget the Warm-up  

23:37 Great Tips to Spicing up Routine, Boring, and Obligatory Sex  

25:50 Obstacles People Face with Fellatio / Blowjobs & Creative Solutions  

39:16 Navigating Insecurities  

42:57 Dirty Talk  

43:58 How to Have an Orgasm by Giving Oral Sex  

48:32 You Love to Receive Oral Sex, but your Partner Doesn't Love to Give it...  

51:44 How You Can Work with Dr. Ash  

54:59 The Dish with Leah & Dr. Willow

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"I had a 3-minute orgasm and then a 5-minute orgasm. All I know is that I had transcended and felt like I was surfing in a perpetual wave pool of pleasure." - Beth

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