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#16 - Better Sex for Couples with Deborah Kat

Season #2

On this Episode of the SxR Podcast, we sit down with the incredibly talented Deborah Kat, who combines her diverse background in Tantra, Massage, and Kink to support men and couples in clearing shame and having better sex. Hence the name of her podcast, The Better Sex Podcast. She truly is a Jill-of-all-trades, leading monthly classes as a Tantra Speed Date Facilitator and launching a free global summit for couples next month. With Deborah’s vast background, we had the pleasure of traveling through multiple angles of sexuality, especially between couples. Everything from Conscious BDSM to Kinky Power dynamics at the Renaissance Fair to Reichian Theory. All that, and some very insightful tools she uses in her coaching practice. 

Born and raised in San Francisco, Deborah Kat has always been surrounded by the beautiful California coastline and alternative culture. She leads monthly classes exploring the edges of sexuality and spirit. She combines her diverse background in Tantra, massage, and BDSM to support men and couples in clearing shame to have satisfying relationships and Better Sex. She is Somatica trained, a certified Tantric Educator, Bondassage Trainer, Orgasmic Meditation (OM) Desire Coach, and Host of the Better Sex Podcast.


00:00:00 Introducing Sexpert Deborah Kat

00:03:08 Facilitating Tantra Speed Date Events

00:05:53 There's a Big Difference Between Being in Presence and Being in Story.

00:09:07 Where your Attention Goes, your Energy Follows

00:10:26 Saving Ego's Always Back Fires.

00:11:33 Couples Practice | Pet the Kitty

00:12:38 Couples Practice | The Timer Trick

00:14:24 All the Ways our Pattern Sabotages us in Partnership?

00:24:55 Reichian Theory Personality Types

00:29:32 Bids for Connection

00:33:16 Get Kinky with Power Dynamics

00:34:46 BDSM and Renaissance Fair

00:43:54 Trust the Playground, and You'll Find Freedom

00:48:02 Leah's First Time Watching a BDSM Impact Scene

00:50:12 The Healing Possible within Kink is Incredibly Underestimated

01:01:17 How to Stay in Touch with Deborah Kat

01:03:58 The Dish


Links shared in the episode

SEXPERT - Deborah Kat Website
SEXPERT - The Better Sex Podcast
SEXPERT - The Better Sex Podcast Interview with Leah Piper
SEXPERT - Deborah Kat's Better Sex for Couples Summit - New Link coming soon
SEXPERT - Tantra Speed Date - San Francisco, Oakland, Santa Cruz, Silicon Valley
COURSE - Lynda Caesara Energetics
COURSE - Source Tantra - Where Leah & Kat Met - COUPON: MORELOVE
TRAINING - Bondassage
TRAINING - Somatica
METHOD - The 5 Reichian character structures
EVENT - Renaissance Fairs

TEACHER - Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprints


Co-Hosts Dr. Willow Brown & Leah Piper bring a wealth of wisdom through their combined 40 years of expertise in human sexuality, health, and spiritual growth.  Leah is a Tantric Sex Master Coach and Positive Psychology Facilitator, while Dr. Willow is a Chinese & Functional Medicine Doctor and Taoist Sexology Teacher.  When these two devotees of love come together, they blend and weave the ancient teachings of Tao and Tantra for the modern lover with humor, insight, and wisdom.


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