Chakras; the unknown path to Epic Sex

 

[00:00:00] Introduction to Chakras

 

Dr. Willow: Welcome to Sex Reimagined, where we are reimagining a world where sexuality is shame free, pleasure forward, and honored as sacred. I'm Dr. Willow Brown. 

Leah: And this is Leah Piper. And today do we have a show for you! It's all about the Chakras, and we want you to know that this is the map that will show you how to be a master lover because Yo Chakras are erogenous zones, front and back people, and it's time you woke them up and got them communicating.

So without further ado, let's do this. 

Announcer: Welcome to the Sex Reimagined podcast, where sex is shame free and pleasure forward. Let's get into the show. 

Leah: It's chakra day Dr. Willow are you ready to throw down with some chakra magic? 

Dr. Willow: Oh my God. I love talking about the Chakras. There's so dynamic. There's so many layers. There's so much a depth to them.

And when you really learn how to integrate them into your sex life, it really is a lot of fun and it's so much more meaningful and so much more deep. You know? If you know somebody's going through, you know, a power struggle with their boss at work, then you know giving more energy and attention to that solar plexus chakra, the third one, is where your time with them is going to be best spent. It's really powerful. 

Leah: They're totally fascinating. And you know, we think about the Chakras, as this unrelatable, maybe foreign word that has something to do with yoga and probably spirituality, but a lot of people don't actually understand them.

And of the people that might, very few of them understand how to apply it to one's sex life. So this is a very special episode because it's one of the most powerful tools I have had access to in understanding the skillsets of being a master lover. 

Because if you know about the Chakras, then what you have in your hands, literally, is a map for turning someone on, lighting them up, healing them when they're sad, and helping them transcend from being sexually wounded, to being sexually open, alive, awakened, and free.

And this understanding of both, like this spiritual potential, the more esoteric pathways, which I would call like the eastern limbs of the chakra world, and then also the psychological power that is stored within the Chakras, which is sort of like the western view into the chakra system. Then what you have is a very fascinating lifelong experience of tapping into your body so that you can really be embodied & take that to a whole new epic level. 

And you get to do two things. You get to start to process your negative emotions more efficiently and faster, recover faster. And then you get to fully experience savor and relish the beauty, the joy, the awe, the hope, the laughter, the orgasms, the love that we are gifted with so that we capitalize on that. Yeah, absolutely. 

Dr. Willow: I mean, it's this whole system that you have access to. It's innate inside of you. It's a part of your body, it's a part of your system. And so, may as well tune in and learn how to use it in all of your life. But especially in your sex life, so that you can become a master lover, as Leah just said. Be Why not? Who doesn't want to become a master lover?

I mean, come on. So let's define it, Leah Piper. Yes. Let's define it. Let's start with your definition, my love.

 

[00:01:46] Adrien's Origin Story - Relationship Focus to on Career Focus

 

Adrien: You know, it's crazy because I had a relationship between 15 and 19 years old that, kind of scarred me only because I was so young and I didn't realize what I had when I had it. I didn't realize how good it was because it wasn't a fairytale. I was looking for something that was absolutely a hundred percent better.

You know? It was like, we're like Disney, cause I love Disney movies. And we lived together for the whole entire time. So it was like a full on. I experienced the relationship, right? And then it was like, after that I avoided relationships like the plague. I'm like, I have my daughter. I'm focusing on my career.

Like, I want more money and I'm just going, you know, I'm just going be the masculine. 

Willow: You're going hold it all. 

Leah: I'm going do all this work. Yeah. 

Adrien: All by myself. 

Willow: All by yourself. 

Adrien: Cause I'm just a strong woman like that. Right? And you also have to realize, not only am I living in a masculine world, but just the black community, because my mother's white, my father's black.

So being raised in the black community, the women are the stronger ones. Right? And the men kind of back them up. The women are listened to people dedicate their lives to the black women. So on top of that, I have this whole thing where, okay, so there's a matriarchy and I'm like, I'm that person.

And my grandmother was very much like that. And I so respected how she treated her family and how they respected her that I was like, okay, I can do this on my own. And mind you, she had eight children. 

Leah: Oh my gosh. 

Adrien: Okay. So eight kids who like did what she said, they listened to her and I'm seeing her do this on her own.

So there was like this, there was that role model, that you do this by yourself. You don't do this with a partner, you do this alone. 

So anyways, you know, fast forward to like five years ago, and I was like, I don't want to do this alone anymore. I've been doing this for a long time. What is this male energy I've been carrying? I don't like it. Right? 

Leah: Like, is it burnout? What did that feel like? Was it like a burnout, just your energy flat lined? 

Adrien: Wasn't a burnout because I love what I do, right. But I'm starting to realize I want more help. Rather than like, cause I had to learn how to hire people. I had to learn how to let people in to help me.

So like, what's the next step of that? It's letting it a partner. So I, you know, I was really focused on career, like a lot of my clients.

 

[00:03:54] What are Chakras?

 

Leah: So I would say that your Chakras are like extensions of your brain. They carry consciousness, but they're like energetic reservoirs. They're found along the spine. And they have a psychological theme. 

So that when you're going through a crisis, a trauma, a stress un illness, what happens is it stores the emotional content that we can't properly digest in the moment because we're going through something that's hard. Right. Our minds are too small to process that fast. And so our body's genius has been created to kind of just put those things in the containers. The hope that will finally process it once the dust has settled.

Dr. Willow: Absolutely. 

Leah: And that's why we're all in therapy. It's cause we're trying to just work out that past and get it all out of our Chakras. The problem is, therapy today doesn't really address the body. It's really only addressing the thoughts about how we feel about the past. 

Dr. Willow: That's right. Yeah.

Leah: It's not going to where it's being stored in the tissues and in the energy body. And so we end up having these unresolved, crystallized emotional experiences that are locked into our systems. That if not treated, turn into disease. And eventually turn into cancer, and then you die. 

Dr. Willow: So we gotta address this, right?

We gotta find what Chakras are blocked in our bodies and start to talk to the soma. Start to open up the cellular places in our bodies that are holding onto those locked, stagnant emotions. This could be coming from traumas, it could be coming from abuse, it could be coming from, you know, somebody saying they don't want to go on a third date with you.

Like the levels and variations range quite a bit. And yes, that stuck crystallizing emotion in the soma of the Chakras and the cellular bodies of the Chakras absolutely can turn into physical ailments and physical diseases. 

If we're looking at somebody who is suffering from thyroid disorders, you know, 10 times outta 10, in my practice, in my experience, there is something going on with the throat chakra. 

There is some kind of blockage in that avenue of expression, in that place where you know what's true for you, comes out of your mouth and is expressed with and with grace. And so, you know, each one of your Chakras is not only do we have this sort of esoteric, energetic the symbols of the Chakras, the yantras, and the shapes, and the sacred geometry, and sort of that Eastern viewpoint.

We've got this Western viewpoint as Leah was talking about, the like psychological sort of patterns and things that come up in regards to each one of the Chakras. 

But also you've got seven glands in your body, seven endocrine glands, and your endocrine glands make up your whole hormonal system. So you've got seven of those glands and you've got seven of these Chakras.

And the glands and the Chakras are a mirror image of each other. Back to the example of the thyroid, what chakra would that be? Of course it would be the throat chakra. So, you know, it's really powerful to, to use them from both sides of the same coin. You know, let's reimagine what's possible when it comes to understanding the Chakras at a whole new level.

No matter how well you think you understand them, there's always more to learn. 

Leah: One aspect of the chakra system that I want our audience to begin to explore is that the Chakras are erogenous zones front and back. So we want to be able to touch them and open them. 

And from the Eastern philosophy, almost every practice, whether it's a visualization with the yantras and tuning into the sacred geometry or it is using mantra and singing them and playing with the sound seed syllables. All this meditation, countless, endless practices having to do with the chakra system. They all serve basically one purpose and that purpose is to get ahead on the God game. Lovely pursuit. We should all pursue such a thing. 

But what I have found to be very fascinating from the Western perspective is like you said, the psychological themes. So I can understand when I am going through something that's stressful or painful or causing me unrest, I know where to put my hands. And bring love and learn how to self soothe. 

So when you understand those psychological themes, you can bring empathy to your loved ones. 

You can bring empathy and self soothing to yourself, and you begin to be accountable and responsible for learning how to heal yourself. 

And this is really, really powerful in the sexual domain of life because so many of us have been sexually wounded. So many people are walking around in the world having felt used, misused, and abused by somebody. 

And so when you have the imprints of those things that have felt painful, it makes you guarded against opening and loving again, and to the point that many people suffer from countless sexual dysfunctions. Or unhappy sex lives in their relationships because of the disturbance of a wound that might have gotten imprinted when you were three years old or 12 years old, or 25, who knows? 

So you can actually do something about that and begin to remove those blocks so that there is a free flowing current running in your nervous system and in your energy system that has those Chakras beginning to spin and have circuitry between each other so that there's harmony. And in that harmony you get to process your negative feelings faster and you get to expand your pleasure feelings further. 

I want to just preface this next section by saying each chakra has like a basement. And you know when things come in the house and you use 'em for a little while and then you just put it down in the basement, or you just start to collect your stuff and your stuff is just the stuff you just put in the basement.

So all these things that happen and it's like, I can't deal with that, I'm going to put it in the basement. That's oftentimes one of the ways that people utilize their Chakras is they keep putting shit in the damn basement and never having a garage sale , and then we just end up being so full of that contractive, unused, messy, dusty stuff.

And we have to clean the basement every once in a while. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah. because what kind of choices are you going to be making if you're in that stagnant space? What kind of life are you going to be living if you've got this stagnant energy and emotional trauma stuck in each one of these Chakras? Let's open the doors and air out that basement. Get rid of some of that. 

And, you know, I love what you said about the self soothing and the self pleasuring, like bringing pleasure through. That's one of the primary laws of Chinese medicine is like, let's bring in so much good that there's no more room for the bad. Like, let's bring in so much life that there's no room for the shadow, you know?

Leah: Let's renovate the basement. 

Dr. Willow: Let's renovate baby, let's unpack that shit. 

Leah: So the another thing to just bring into the picture is we are electrical beings, right?

We are electricity, we've got currents. Our brain is sending these electrical currents and tons of data and information throughout our whole body and forming our lived experience from what we see to what we feel. And so when we begin to understand the power of our mind and our ability to use our awakened consciousness to affect the circuitry and to help the neuro pathways go in a direction that gets strengthened, so that our positive experiences are now looped into beautiful habits, and these Chakras are now talking to each other and harmonizing.

It's so healthy.

 

[00:13:05] First Chakra | The Anal Cavity

 

Leah: And so we're going to begin our discovery with chakra number, the foundation. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah, let's create wholeness from the ground up. Yes. So root chakra. Root chakra is all about survival, right? it's about being in a body. It's about being here on this planet at this time.

Now, I don't know about you Leah, but people come to me all the time and they're like, What's the point of being here? I don't really want to be here. 

They've gone through some maybe very deep depression at some point in their life, or they've even gone to the point of suicidal thoughts. I've been there myself.

I completely understand. I know what that feels like. And it's very, very uncomfortable. And until you go into the basement of that root chakra and you start to clean things up and shed some light on moving out of survival and into thriving or moving from survival to thrival in that root chakra so that we can be in our bodies, be comfortable in our bodies, and actually enjoy the parameters of our own skin.

Ah, yes. You know, the root chakra if the house of our home. Has a shaky foundation, then the whole house is shaky. That's right. It's so important that we begin a relationship to the root chakra where we feel grounded to the earth and we feel at home in our bodies and we feel a sense of belonging. So many people have experienced stress and trauma, especially really young ages that, and that teaches them that bodies hurt.

Right? So why do I want to occupy one? So there's oftentimes living from here, which has its own brilliance connected to it. No judgment. But we came in to have a body, let's explore it. Especially when it comes to pleasure and love. 

And sexuality vehicles for those experiences, you gotta be in it to feel it.

So the foundation chakra has to do with fear. And everything having to do with death, whether that's the death of a loved one or a death of a chapter in your life. , it is the of certainty and a feeling of I belong somewhere. And not just in the body with, but with people, 

with community, with tribe.

Yeah, that's right. We're tribal human animals here. And so having that supportive home space, that supportive tribal space, really gives you a greater foundation for that root chakra to be awakened, to be alive, and to be, you know, on par. 

Speaking of aliveness, from a sexual standpoint, it's a major zone, major.

I mean, 500 million gay guys can't be wrong, honey. There is something special up your ass and you deserve to meet it, you know, and that's in every human body. There is something really powerful about anal pleasure and orgasmic experiences that are unlike any other kind of orgasm the body can feel.

It's a totally different orga feeling and many of us have so many issues at the thought of somebody touching our anus or our our conditioning around it being dirty or gross. And so it's shrouded in shame. , and we have these insecurities about our smell and elimination. There's so much like emotional complexity.

When it comes to sexualizing this part of the body, and yet it is as holy as your heart and your mind. 

There are so many parts to the body, this is just another one of them. Like 

this is just another one. And then it starts to be resolved. If you don't know that, , it deserves to be touched with love.

And you deserve to explore the deep surrender required to let go. And to let God give you some anal orgasms, so we'll leave that for another episode, the full understanding of what the pleasure sexual realm potential is for our bodies here in this part. But I want to just future pace our audience to say, I hope you've discovered it, and if you haven't yet, I hope you'll do everything possible to begin that journey.

Start with yourself. Take some time for just a little exploration of that root chakra on your own. So, you know, it, it is anal and also the the perineum. each chakra is like, a portal or a doorway, right? So there's space on either side and there's space around it. When you go direct into anal stimulation and anal pleasure, it is it is opening up also that perineal.

Area as well, which connects you to Earth. And it's, it is so interesting, it's so taboo to like, you know, have anal sex or to have anal simulation during sex. Considered a kink. Right. You know, it's considered that and actually, and that's the foundation and that's what is what we're talking about is missing in so many sexual repertoires.

So, just use curiosity with this one. You know, stay with yourself, stay with the thread of where you're at in your exploration with this root chakra. 

Leah: Yeah. And this is a great opportunity for you to discover, to bravely discover your own understanding of what the big deal. , you'll read books, educate yourself.

Don't go to porn. Porn is not going to teach you how to give or receive great Anal sex, in my opinion. Not to say you can't enjoy it for entertainment purposes, but it should not be the thing teaching you how to have anal sex because most women will end up getting some sort of horrible vaginal infection with you going from her ass to her vag.

Dr. Willow: So yeah, never do that. 

Leah: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Don't do that. That's a public service announcement. 

Dr. Willow: Please do not do that. When we also, when we look at this chakra, it relates to the gland that is like, in Chinese medicine, it's the spark, it's the initiation of life, you know, it's the first flame. And it's the flame that goes out when we pass, you know, when we die.

And so it's the adrenal glands, you know? And how many times have you heard someone say, I have adrenal depletion, or adrenal exhaustion, or, you know, I'm just, I'm so tired. I can't sleep. 

And so we're looking at the adrenals when somebody's like wired and tired, and part of that is this leaking of cortisol.

Like, oh my God, I'm five minutes late to my massage appointment. Or Oh my God, I'm five minutes late to my podcasting appointment. 

You know, it's like, that is a waste of Chi. It's okay you're five minutes late, the world's not going to end. So, you know, we get into this habit, it's almost addictive in a way.

And there's, you know, things that play into it, like caffeine and alcohol, and things stimulates, you know? And so we want to just really pay attention to how we take care of our adrenal glands, as well as how we take care of our being at home in our bodies, comfortable with every little nook and cranny of our bodies. 

Leah: Yeah. So my last thing I just want to say before moving onto the second chakra is that uptight has a home and it's your ass. So if anyone ever calls you a tight ass, you gotta look a little closer at, you know, how you're reacting. when we grip. So many of us have like these tight asses and it's because we're gripping for control.

We're so afraid of letting go that everything is going to fall apart. That we walk around literally gripping, trying to keep it all together. 

Dr. Willow: The truth is we don't have control over any of this. 

If we can start to loosen our grip on that, we can start to just enjoy and be basking and steeping in more pleasure in life.

So, I mean, we've got these incredible bodies that are made to experience pleasure, so let's use them as such. Let's play with them as such.

 

[00:22:02] Second Chakra | The Genitals

 

Leah: Leading us to the second chakra, which is the genital area. Now I know there are different traditions that place a second chakra in other places a little bit higher, but in my tradition, I experienced the second chakra as being the space between the front of your genitals and your sacrum. 

Now your Chakras have a front and a back. They are three-dimensional. They're not just this thing that's in front or a disc. It's a multidimensional reservoir of consciousness.

And so everything having to do with the opposite sex and sex gets stored here in the second chakra. But that's not all. I mean, lots of issues having to do with same sex relationships also get stored in the second chakra. So for instance in a woman's body, there are experiences having to do with birth, with abortions, with periods, with invasive doctors, with a medical abuse, with to horrible gynecologist experiences. 

Dr. Willow: Bike accidents. 

Leah: Yeah. Bike accident, everything. 

Not to mention in a man's body getting kicked in the balls, being emasculated. So many men are raised in our culture to be the one that instigates that does all of the invitation... 

Dr. Willow: Courting 

Leah: ...and courting, that whole lovely thing. And so, as a result, so many men feel either adequate or inadequate as a lover. There is still a hard wiring that says, I am adequate and okay as a lover if I can turn my partner on and give them orgasms.

And like to be able to separate the two and say, you are responsible for your understanding of how pleasure wants to open inside of you and to be accountable to that. And I am also. And now let's play and teach each other. But no one is responsible for my orgasms.

Dr. Willow: That's right. Then you're coming from an authentic place and you're showing up fully in yourself 

Leah: You know, the other obvious things that gets stored in the second chakra are bad sexual experiences.

You know, there's a lot of sexual trauma out there. One out of three women, statistically, one out of four men, statistically, have had some kind real harm to their bodies. And so what that means is if you haven't had any kind of sexual trauma, wonderful. But you're going to date somebody who has.

Right. And so that's going to impact and affect all sorts of dynamics within partnership. So educating yourself about how and why people either overexpress their sexual energy, or they under express their sexual energy, how they collapse, how they open is important to keep your awareness and to learn about. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah. You want to have a basket of tools around this, regardless of if you've been through your own sexual trauma or rape experience. Because yeah, it's so rampant and it really is part of what makes sexuality so taboo. And so like, let's not look at it, let's not talk about it because those experiences are painful as fuck.

They are very uncomfortable to look at and to go into. There's so much shame. Shame is one of the most painful. Yeah, one of the most painful human experiences that we could go through. That emotion, that self blame, and that shame is, nobody wants to unpack that. Nobody wants to open that box and bring it out from the basement, but when you do, you will find that there is a whole nother part of you underneath that is just excited to come out and play. That wants to be seen, that wants to be expressed, and that wants to experience evolve, expand more, not just in sexuality, but also in what you can create in the world. Sexuality is the most potent creative energy that we have access to.

It creates new life. It creates a whole new human being. So what can we do with that creative energy? And we look at the glanular system for the second shocker, we're looking at the gonads and the ovaries. Those are creative, light sensitive centers in your body. Beautiful endocrine glands that promote this creativity in your life.

So, It can be really challenging to unpack this basement, but when you do, you get to step into your creative potential in a whole new way. And this is how you make your dreams come true. This is how you make the visions that you have for yourself and your life and all that you know you're capable of.

And all you know you can be, is by creating it. It's not just sitting around dreaming it up and manifesting without taking action. Like we've got to co-create with the universe and sometimes that means co-creating with another human being, like Leah and I are doing right now. You know? And so it can be so fun. It can be so pleasurable and so joyful to co-create when you start to think about life that way, as a co-creation. That can be healing in and of itself to the second chakra.

 

[00:27:42] Third Chakra | The Solar Plexus

 

Leah: The third chakra, the power chakra. This is in the area of the naval. So when I think about the third chakra, what immediately comes to mind is those experiences where one feels confident, and determined, and has a strong sense of core, which means they are self-referencing versus other referencing. They're connected to their wants, and desires, and needs.

And it's also where we feel disempowered. So really the word power is the big word for the third chakra. It's the right use of power, the wrong use of power, the abuse of power. 

So when I look at someone who's has a really vibrant third chakra, what I notice about them is the way that they hold their body. That their shoulders are back, and their head is held high, but they're soft too and relaxed, and really it's the image of confidence.

Whether they're speaking or in silence. You want to sit next to that chick? You know, it's like, it's very magnetic. 

Dr. Willow: It's so attractive. It's so attractive. And not only that, it's good for your posture. Have you ever spent a day just letting your solar plexus lead you forward?

Leah: I mean, I got so excited my, my shirt came undo. 

Dr. Willow: Yes. They had to come open.

Let that solar plexus shine. Yes. It's such an incredible center. It's almost like the heart chakra is really the bridge between our lower physical, you know, Chakras in our bodies. But I feel like the solar plexus is the beginning of the bridge, you know, it's like, okay, I'm standing on the precipice of this bridge of what it means to be a whole human being, a confident human being, somebody who knows their purpose and is not afraid to go after it.

Leah: Yeah. Someone who's really at home in their skin. You know, and is at peace with themselves. And is taking in their environment and participating, It's beautiful. It's really, it's really attractive. There's a beautiful magnetic quality when we're healthy and we're connected to our core, and when we're not, we're collapsed.

And we are oftentimes recreating victim consciousness in our life. And it can become a disempowered, you know, very challenging life experience. 

And so one of the things that you can start to imagine, for those of you who are noticing that you could use a little bit more empowerment, so you can show up differently in your world and start having more wonderful experiences versus negative victimizing experiences, is to just put your hands on your belly and notice like your felt sense will tell you it's where our instinct comes from.

I mean, do you remember being a little kid and know when you were in trouble? You just knew when you got home, you were busted for something.

Dr. Willow: Like a little puppy in the corner? 

Leah: It always hit me in my gut. I was like, oh God. I had the worst stomachache. Like, I want to like throw up. I just knew something bad was about to go down, and I was at the center of it. 

And so we get a lot of like gut instinct. And intuition by the sensation arising in our stomach that says, I'm safe. I'm not safe. I'm being lied to. I'm, this is congruent to truth, you know? Understanding and feeling from a felt sense. That you are in an honest environment.

Or when you've done something out of integrity, noticing those sensations and then doing the actions necessary in order to repair. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah, absolutely. 

Leah: A situation that needs repairing. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah. The solar plexus can be in that lower area, but it can also be, some people think about it like kind of up where the ribs come together.

The gland was one of the most interesting glands of the endocrine system that matches the solar plexus. Most people don't know what it is because it's also an organ. So this gland is an organ and a gland, and it's the pancreas gland, and it's all about digestion. And so, how well are you digesting what's going on in your life?

How well are you assimilating and really staying present? You need to have a presence in order to assimilate. Yes, exactly. And it's so interesting too, in Chinese medicine, they call this the yellow court. And what's so interesting about the yellow court is it's where all the emotions from the other organ systems come together. And for a lot of people, it's very tender, very sensitive, right in that solar plexus. And do find with my slouch-asana students, you know, it's like that's the place where they give themselves up for others. And I have worked on that one myself for years. Like, where am I giving myself up for others?

Right there. Let me open that up. And the simple act of opening up the solar plexus, including massaging it and opening it up manually, and then opening it up on your posture, opening it up psychologically and energetically, it's just you have so much more capacity to digest what's going on in your life. To really assimilate what's happening.

Because that's what the pancreas does. It sends out those digestive enzymes and those digestive hormones so that we can actually not get stuck in the basement. You know that we can actually be, again, in our wholeness, in our confidence, standing upright and strong. For what? Why are we here? What's our purpose? Standing in the conviction of our truth. 

Leah: From a sexual arousal standpoint, wherever there's a flexible joint or a bendable part of the body, there are extra nerve endings. So there's more sensation, and orgasm doesn't just live in the genitals. Orgasm is experienced throughout the whole body. If I were to define orgasm, I would define it as it's just energy in movement.

It's pleasurable, laughing, crying. All those things feel good. Now when we have pain, it's like energy gets stuck, and I think one of the sexiest places to be touched is when someone uses their fingertips or the back of their hand to just trace the length of my waist or they hold and conform the shape of their hand to my hip, or they tickle the back of my spine with their fingertips.

There's something about feeling my waist in someone's hands that makes me feel like... I drop into my feminine in a way that feels so sexy and yummy. And I, I just, there's a softening and a suppleness that I get to be in connection with that I love. I love like that stroke from that long stroke from the side boob all the way down.

Dr. Willow: Side boob is so sexy. Oh, so hot. Yes. You know, so interestingly, Leah, what you're pointing to is actually a meridian line in the body. 

Leah: Oh, is that right? 

Dr. Willow: Yeah. And it's a meridian that is responsible for helping you make choices. And so, you know, this solar plexus also is like, okay, what choice am I going to make in this moment?

You always have a choice, even if it doesn't seem like either one of 'em are good, or you want to choose either one. You still always have a choice. And this is an earth center in the body, so we are not just part of the earth. We are the earth. We are earthlings; we are of the earth. And the earth is, you know, constantly choosing life, death cycle. Like that's what's happening, and so we can start to see our choices as, like, well, when something's ending, something else is beginning. 

And standing more in the connection that we have to ourselves as earthlings and that these bodies that we're in are full of magic, full of pleasure potential that we have the choice to wake up to at any given moment.

I was actually on the beach earlier this morning and had a moment like that on the beach. I was like, oh, I'm laying here in the sun, and the sand, in the water and I'm stressing out about something, you know? My mind is like, oh, how am I going to figure that out? How am I going to do that? And that's also this gallbladder meridian that I'm speaking about is that, like, let me figure it out.

Let me find the right choice. You know? But then there's this other side of like, let me just be present, drop into the vision of what I'm in right now. Like this is a dream moment that I am in. I need to receive that dream moment. And the way that you do that is by opening up your senses. Like, what can I hear? What can I taste? What can I smell? What can I see? So when we are in our parasympathetic state, our rest and digest state, the solar plexus has space to be in that magnetic, attractive confidence. 

Leah: It's so interesting. Like I'm already feeling my body shift, you know, like there's a letting go of settling in. Everything's starting to relax. There's less of a grip. And doesn't it feel good? I hope everyone else is feeling the same thing as we sort of start to work our way to the next chakra, which is the heart. 

It reminds me, one of the things that was arising when you were sharing was that when things are going on in our life, we have to remind ourselves that it's happening for us, not to us when we think we don't have choice.

Right. And there are times when we don't have maybe a lot of good choices that we can see yet. And so that reminder that it's all happening for you, you just haven't arrived yet to that full reality, but you can put your trust in it starting now.

 

[00:38:37] Fourth Chakra | The Heart

 

Leah: And it's one of those things that we can really bring to our heart when our heart is hurting, and we're not having our heart's desire met.

And we are experiencing a longing. Or we've been really mistreated by someone we thought was a friend or a family member. You know, we oftentimes talk in culture about this heart being this like, yay, it's wonderful. Like, party, love, friendship, we're all in it together, you know, this place for connection.

But the heart is also a storehouse for pain. It stores all the hurts. And so I always describe the heart chakra as like this amazing castle. It's so beautiful. It's glorious. It's like the most beautiful castle you've ever met is inside your heart. And it has room for every experience and every place you've been to and every relationship you've encountered. Whether it was just a moment or a lifetime. And the biggest rooms in the castle are usually occupied by a family or current or past lovers. All of 'em, all of 'em. They're all in there. And it's a chance for us to go on a meditative journey and visit some of those rooms.

I can't tell you how many times I've tried to kick out somebody from my heart, you know? And I have been treated like shit in the past by a handful of people. Really just treated horribly. And I still can't get them out. And I finally learned that it wasn't about trying to kick somebody out of my heart. It was about reconciling my heart's experience and loving myself as I remembered, and heal the aspects of those experiences so that I could be done with them. Never needing to repeat a pattern 

We can complain; oh, I always attract the same kinda guy, man. Or I always attract the same kinda woman. Well, you're the only constant. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah, you're the common denominator. 

Leah: Right. So it's like you go in, and you start to sit with those rooms, and like the basement, you start to open up the windows, you clean everything off. Yeah, you look for your teacher in those rooms. 

Dr. Willow: That's right. 

Leah: What did I learn? What did I learn? What did learn?

Dr. Willow: Yeah, exactly. I love castles, by the way. So going into your heart's castle is such a beautiful metaphor. And yeah, it's about any time we start to create resistance, we're like, God, I really want to just get that person out of my castle. Like, what are they still doing here 20 years later? Why are they still plaguing and darkening this corner of my castle? Go in there with a candle, go in there with a light, make your way into the deepest, darkest places and have a conversation with that person and who you were when you were with that person. Because it's really all about you when it comes right down to it, 

Leah: Saying all the things you didn't get the chance to say. Finishing. Resolving. You know, I think it's especially powerful to do this with your caregivers that are in your heart. You know, I think my most profound experience was going into the room where my dad lives.

And being with the karma of being his daughter and all that came with. All the love that it came with, all the wisdom that I have collected, but also all the terror I felt of this really big guy, right? Who was depressed and unhappy most of my life. And feeling responsible and being a little kid trying to make dad happy, right? And being so looped into his emotional system, giving me permission of whether I could be okay or not. And so to start to parse that out and be the caretaker of that six-year-old who's scared of her dad, be the caretaker of that 16-year-old who is defiant. And was fighting for their freedom. You know, it was so, so powerful. And the result of that I would like to share with others is that I'm with my dad now, more in love with him than I've ever been. Because I learned through that process is that he's not just my dad. I took him out of a dad role / archetype and realized he's a thousand different things and plays a hundred thousand different roles as a human being.

And to see the scope of who he really is. Versus the narrow vision of what I was holding has allowed the truest intimacy between us. 

Dr. Willow: Ah, that's so beautiful. 

Leah: I get to love him because that room is precious to me. 

Dr. Willow: And you want to go there all the time, right? You're like, I have no problem going to that room now I'm happy to go there.

Leah: Yes. Yeah. And it's like, now I have the Dad I always wanted 

Dr. Willow: That's how you turn pain into pleasure. Just like that. Yeah. And there it is. And the result, the external result, came from inside of you. So beautiful. I know you have such a beautiful relationship with your dad 

Leah: And it wasn't, hasn't always been that way.

I'm a girl with all the daddy issues. 

Dr. Willow: I think we're going to have to have an episode on that there, you know? 

Leah: Yeah, totally. But moving from the heart, unless there's anything else you'd like to add about the heart? 

Dr. Willow: Let's talk gland for one second before we move on, since we're hitting that topic.

The thymus is the gland here. So the thymus is the gland that is responsible for your immune system. What's so interesting about the thymus gland is basically all of your helper t-cells develop before you hit puberty. So, and then you use what you have, so you have the storehouse, and then you go through puberty, and that gland starts kind of, it gets built over with this fatty tissue, but you've got this storehouse of helper t-cells that fight out viruses and flues and bacterias.

And so it's similar to the ovaries in that way. Right? And we know there's this heart and sexuality- connection. And so, you know, we were born with a certain amount of ovaries, so it's like the storehouse. And once they're used up, then you know, you start to have ailments. And that's why as we get older and as we age, we have more like, I didn't used to be allergic to this, and now I'm sensitive to that.

You know, it's because this thymus immune system gland in your body might have used up a lot of its helper T-cells. So, one way to both maintain the reserve of the thymus and the ovaries is through sexual energy. Sexual energy it's medicine, drawing orgasmic energy to your thymus gland. I mean, when's the last time you had a heart orgasm?

I tell you what... 

Leah: ...there you go. There you go. The cry-gasm people, if you've had a cry-gasm. 

Dr. Willow: Oh, it's just so expansive, so beautiful, and so incredibly healing not only for your body but for your whole soul. So yeah, that's all I want to say about that. 

Leah: Cool, cool, cool. So then we'll go up to the throat.

 

[00:45:59] Fifth Chakra | The Throat

 

Dr. Willow: Throat chakra.

Leah: I think the throat chakra is the most powerful of them all. 

Dr. Willow: I love the throat chakra. 

Leah: The throat chakra, and I'll tell you why, is because it's the magnet, my dear listeners, for all the lower Chakras. 

So if you got any of the stuff I've been talking about, that Willow's been talking about, that have turned into blocks for you to being as open and available to receiving love as possible, then you can actually move those blocks out of the Chakras. You can start to break down the crystallization that would turn into disease if gone untreated. 

And you can move that stuck energy out of your body by connecting to this feeling of sensation and giving it a sound. Any vow will do hard or soft. 

And it takes a lot of courage to confront how limited, how the limits we put on ourselves when it comes to having a voice. So it directly confronts that. 

But if you want to have the biggest, most beautiful giant orgasms, the only way there is to make the sound of your pleasure. And just like the way to get rid of shame and sensations of burning or heartbreak or chronic stomach anxiety is to actually feel the sensation and give it a voice. Give it a sound. 

Because the sound has pitch and frequency. And the breath carries that pitch and frequency from where you feel the sensation and the block and helps you move it out of your body. It's the pitch and the frequency that takes the block out of the system. 

Dr. Willow: I love that. 

Leah: And that's a new connection that the neuropathways can start to establish so that that process becomes easier and easier every time you do it. 

Dr. Willow: Absolutely. And it's also, yes, connecting to the pain and the pleasure to both sides of this and really feeling it and then voicing it out to give it expression, to give it life. But then also, sometimes, you can use this voice and this connection with the breath and the frequency of the resonance to ignite sexual desire.

Like have you ever been in a situation with a partner, maybe you've been with your partner for a long time and you're like, eh, we just always do the same thing, it's kind of boring. I'm not really that excited or turned on by it. Routine sex. Right? We've all been there. Nobody's negated that one. So, you know, the way out of that is use your voice.

Like, just start to make sounds. Start to, even if it feels inauthentic at first, as you keep going, as you continue to stay with it. Connect to the sensation, even if the sensation is numbness, that's still a sensation. 

Leah: That's a feeling. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah. It's a feeling. Even if the sensation is like, I'm not into this, connect to that sensation and make a sound, and that will lead to the next sensation. Make a sound that will lead to the next. Your sounds might go from something like, ugh to something like Uhhuh, Oh, in a matter of, you know, five minutes. It's a quick pathway. 

Leah: That is so true. So true. And Tantrika's know to start to make the sound of a yummy, yummy, yummy feeling good, feeling hot, feeling Ha-ha-hot before. Like we don't wait for a sensation to be worthy of a sexy sound.

We know that we can start to breathe and connect the sound and then the sexy sensations come to us. We have it a little bit backwards in how we give value and decide what is deserving of our ooooh's and ahhhh's. 

Dr. Willow: That's right. 

Leah: And people make more sound eating dessert than they do having sex.

And there's a real problem with that. 

Dr. Willow: Or they're spaghetti... 

Leah: Food deserves all the sounds, but to start getting accustomed and comfortable in your own skin. Cause I think at first it feels really contrived. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah. It can feel inauthentic like at first. 

Leah: You can train yourself, lay down, and just start going, mm-hmmmmm. Take a big deep breath and grunt.

Dr. Willow: You know, one of the things that helps me with this sounding and breathing is holding the breath at the top. So really holding the breath in. Holding the breath as long as you can, connecting to that sensation, whether it's a painful one or a pleasurable one. And then, when you can't hold your breath anymore, you make that sound. It's like a relief.

It's a beautiful clearing of all those other Chakras. 

Leah: It's so helpful when you are dropping into being intimate to start with just simple, simple, expand the length of your inhale. Expand the length of your exhale. And that will start to train you to begin having longer, sweeter, more full belly breaths.

And when your belly is expanding in that breathing, it calms the adrenals and starts to drop your cortisol levels and prepares you for being really present. Because that presence is needed for you to go to big places in pleasure. So the breath and we will explore this so much more and so much deeper.

It's so powerful. When it comes to awesome, better sex than most people will ever have the type of sex. 

Dr. Willow: Oh yeah. We'll have whole episodes on breathing for better sex. Breathe works for better sex. It's such a world of information out there, so can't wait to have some incredible experts come through on that.

When we look at the gland, it's the thyroid. And we know that this one is super responsible for all of our metabolic functions. So our sleeping and wake cycles are circadian rhythms. The rhythm of a woman's menstrual cycle, her who's still in her fertility years.

Also, digestion. So there's a lot of like systems in the body that when they're functioning well, you feel happy and whole. And you can carry on through your life, and you don't feel like you're wasting your Chi trying to figure out God, what did I eat wrong, and why isn't my digestion working? Or, man, I can't sleep at night. I can't wake up in the morning. I'm so groggy and heavy and tired. You know, this thyroid gland. 

I really think that because it's so much about expression and communication and sharing what's inside of you to the outer world. Like the more that you can do that, the better all of these other metabolical physical functions in your body are going to function.

So that's all I'll say about that. 

Leah: Well, hallelujah. May our our throats be open and clear and courageous in its truth telling, so that our beautiful thyroid can function properly. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah, it's a big one. Moving right on up.

 

[00:53:28] Sixth Chakra | The 3rd Eye / Brow Center

 

Leah: We have the third eye. 

Dr. Willow: The third eye. 

Leah: Very, very sexy as far as I'm concerned.

That space between your third eye and here in the back of the brain, reticular formation of the brain. Would you call that in Taoism? Something Cushion. 

Dr. Willow: Cushion? Oh, the jade pillow? 

Leah: The jade pillow. The jade pillow. It's a such beautiful language, you know. There's something in Tantra that we call pillow talk. And let's just we'll share more of that later. 

But the way I think of the six chakra, it's really the balancing of the left and the right hemispheres of the brain. And allowing ourselves to work with our mind and to talk back to our thoughts so that we are more congruent with what we think, which shapes what we believe, which shapes how we react.

And so having a practice that allows you to question your negative beliefs, that allows you to talk back to your worry thoughts, that can support you in being generous with your assumptions of others. To be able to work with the mind and its awesome ability in its creative potential to bring things into form, but it can also just derail you like nothing else.

So really building the skillsets needed so that you're functioning at the highest level of mental health possible for you. And that comes with taking the right supplements, and surrounding yourself with healthy people who are doing their work as much as you are.

Dr. Willow: Absolutely. There's this really beautiful connection that you have, too, through your third eye of trusting your intuition, trusting your inner wisdom. But there's this innate knowing that you have. And it also relates to, like, what is your gut saying, you know? So there's this real strong brain-gut connection that we have. We've got, you know, synaptic pathways, like millions of them in the brain, thousands of them in the heart, hundreds of them in the gut, and they hold memory, and they hold ideas, and they hold constructs for us.

And so when we open up the third eye, we are actually shifting all neuro pathways throughout the entire body. So it's a whole human body reset when we start to bring energy and openness, especially sexual energy and orgasmic energy, up into the brain, center of the brain. 

So we're looking at the pituitary and the hypothalamus here, which are basically the rulers of your entire hormonal system.

You know, the hypothalamus is like the C.E.O. He is the one who's large and in charge. I gave him a he. She is the one who's large and in charge, whatever. And then we've got the pituitary who's like the manager. Like, okay, okay, adrenals, you need to send out some more estrogen because the ovaries are taking a break because we're going through menopause.

You know, so there's this whole conversation that happens between this part of your body, and the glands that relate, and the rest of your body. 

Leah: I think what's also really powerful about the six chakra and its relationship to the brain and the body and sex is that your brain is the biggest sex organ.

Dr. Willow: Oh my God. 

Leah: It's the thing that's telling the rest of your body that something really beautiful is happening. Be right here for it. Don't miss it. Stay here. You know? Like being in this moment and having that flood, it renews you. And can help suspend your weary soul if it's tired. And gives you a sense of release and relief and can bring connection and love.

And those neuro pathways get stronger and stronger depending on where you're intending and what you're watching. So here's something to also relate to is that orgasm is happening in the brain. And there is this, they've done studies of scanning people's brains in orgasm.

And there's this place that lights up in orgasm that is the same place that lights up in meditation and in prayer, and they call it the God spot. And so the most uttered phrase in sex is, oh God, oh God. Oh, God. And I love that. It's like it triggers that God's spot, you know? And so we go to this like passing in whiteout where we dissolve into this experience of not having a self and being free.

And there's something so mystical about this. 

Dr. Willow: Oh, the mystery. Let it unfold. 

Leah: And love is a mystical experience. And sex and or, well, I'll say orgasm is also a mystical and emotional experience. So allowing ourselves to have that balance deepens the sexual experience.

 

[00:58:30] Seventh Chakra | The crown / Top of the head

 

Leah: Which leads us up to the last and final. 

Dr. Willow: The seventh chakra. 

Leah: Number seven, let's go to heaven. 

Dr. Willow: Higher consciousness. Let's open ourselves up to this, to the voice of spirit. To the voice of truth, to the voice of what's real in this world. 

Leah: Like our best self, like this is being attuned to our alignment to this path that we most want to be walking. 

Dr. Willow: Highest of high selves.

Leah: And our north star, like I really believe we are all guided by a personal North Star. And when we start to weave off course, disaster is around the corner. And when we get back on course, we feel the flow and doors open. 

Dr. Willow: You can feel it, you know. It's just a knowing. Yeah, it's a felt sense.

Notice how we're not using as many words when we start talking about this chakra. We're like, you know, it's just there. You get it, right? 

Leah: It's just beautiful. 

Dr. Willow: It's a felt thing. 

Leah: And so it's bigger than us. It's bigger than us. And what I love about playing in that realm of developing our spiritual cosmic awareness is how we can have better communication. If my higher self is talking to your higher self... 

Dr. Willow: ...oh my god, we will have a great convo. 

Leah: Oh my God, we disagreed and I just wish I would've said this. And I can step back and go, wait a minute, wait a minute.

Let me tune into her higher self, and let me get connected to mine. And now, what conversation would they have? 

Dr. Willow: Yes. Yes, yes. 

Leah: And to like put ourselves using the power of our mind and our connection to what is bigger and more in right action. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah, absolutely. 

Leah: It can help solve our problems. 

Dr. Willow: It's the pineal gland, so it's connected to dream space and mysticism and the unknown.

You know, it's like, can we become friends with the unknown? We are such creatures of habit. We want to know where we stand, where we're going, and what we're doing. Yes. You know, we want to know, know. 

Leah: We want to secure our safety. 

Dr. Willow: We want that security, god damn it. But there's this other side; there's this other side of that coin, this great mystery. Because the deal is if I know I'm looking at this microphone, that's all; this could possibly be just a microphone. But if I gave the same exact object to my dog, it would be something to like run away and hide in the dirt, you know?

So it would be a play toy. So it's like when we drop our knowing and we step into the unknown, and we start to apprentice with mystery and let it be our teacher and our guide, so much more becomes possible and capable for us in our lives. 

Leah: And when sexual love meets and encounters the spiritual realm, the experience of awe takes on proportions that are indescribable. 

The trust, and the aliveness, and the feeling for freedom, and being swept away is so ecstatic that if people knew it existed, they would probably not become more religious, but become more spiritual. 

Dr. Willow: Yeah, absolutely. More connected to God, to Spirit, to Jah, to Yahweh, however, you like to call Divinity. Open up that experience. 

Leah: So that's your crash course, my friends. 

Dr. Willow: Chakras 101. 

Leah: We have a great cheat sheet for you if you want to download and get some more details and distinctions about the Chakras and what you can do to heal them and to learn more and to educate yourself. 

Head on over to the show notes, where we've got a link, and you can get yourself a cheat sheet for the chakras. 

Dr. Willow: Absolutely. And my book, Sex As Medicine, will be coming out soon, and I talk a lot about the Chakras in that book. 

Leah: Magic. 

Dr. Willow: Yes. 

Leah: Okay. Many, many, many wishes for orgasms and experiences of sexual bliss. Love, love, love, 

Dr. Willow: love, love, love. 

Announcer: Thanks for tuning in. If the hosts seem to know what they were talking about, that's because they do.

Announcer: Leah Piper is a Tantric sex master coach and a positive psychology facilitator. Dr. Willow Brown is both a Chinese and functional medicine doctor and a Taoist sexology teacher. Don't forget your comments, likes, subscribes, and suggestions matter. Let's realize this new world together.