Stuck in Sexual Patterns? | Ariel Szabo & Rahi Chun Explain How Somatic Practices Break The Orgasm Chase Cycle | #134
Beyond the Orgasm: How Extended Arousal States Can Transform Your Intimate Relationship
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What if everything you've been taught about intimate pleasure is actually holding you back? In this episode of the Sex Reimagined Podcast, hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown sit down with divine union experts Ariel Szabo and Rahi Chun to explore a revolutionary approach to intimacy that challenges our culture's obsession with orgasm as the ultimate goal.
The Problem with Our "Finish Line" Mindset
"This 'finish line' perspective has created generations of lovers who rush through the richest terrain of intimate connection, missing countless opportunities for healing, transcendence, and profound bonding along the way," Rahi notes.
Divine Union: Where Somatic Practices Meet Sacred Connection
Ariel Szabo, the "cosmic midwife of the soul," and Rahi Chun, a world-renowned specialist in genital dearmoring, discovered a unique, nonverbal body-to-body communication in their own relationship. This became the foundation for their work with couples through Divine Union for Lovers, where they guide partners to discover the vast realms of pleasure and connection that exist beyond cultural conditioning.
The Eight Pillars of Intimacy: A Revolutionary Framework
- Slowing down
- Pausing
- Noticing
- Attuning
- Accepting
- Trusting
- Valuing
- Communicating
"The first seven pillars are actually internal experiences until communicating comes at the eighth," Rahi explains. This methodical approach creates a pathway for couples to move beyond performance-based sexuality into something far more profound.
Extended States of Arousal: The Untapped Territory
Ariel and Rahi invite listeners to abandon the rush toward orgasm and instead explore extended states of arousal—what they call "luxuriating" in different levels of pleasure. Each level offers unique gifts, from emotional processing and self-acceptance to transcendent experiences where "all boundaries have dissolved between me, my partner, and the world around me."
Creating Sacred Containers for Transformation
Before any deep exploration can begin, Ariel and Rahi emphasize the importance of creating a safe container—establishing agreements, boundaries, and welcoming all emotions. This foundation of safety allows couples to explore one-way touch practices, where partners take turns giving and receiving rather than attempting simultaneous exchange.
The Healing Power of Dearmoring
Another powerful practice they share is genital dearmoring—releasing unconscious guarding patterns in the body's tissues that restrict pleasure and sensation. Through gentle practice that combines pleasure with release work, couples can experience profound healing.
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The Ripple Effect of Arousal
Arousal isn't just personal—it's planetary. "When we are living a turned on life, there's an osmosis, there's mirror neurons that we can then use to turn on other people. So we're giving them permission to also be turned on," Leah notes.
Integrating Plant Medicine with Sacred Sexuality
While Ariel and Rahi primarily work with couples using somatic practices, they also carefully integrate plant medicines (specifically San Pedro/Wachuma) in certain contexts. Their approach is always rooted in safety, consent, and deep trust.
From Theory to Transformation
Their work addresses common relationship challenges including partners "enduring" rather than enjoying intimacy, struggles with orgasm or erectile function, not knowing how to communicate desires, and disconnection from bodily sensations. Through their Divine Union for Lovers courses and retreats, they guide couples to rediscover each other through embodied practices that honor each person's unique needs.
A New Paradigm of Pleasure
Ariel and Rahi's invitation to slow down, pause, and explore the full spectrum of arousal offers something revolutionary—not just better sex, but a more embodied, connected, and conscious way of being. As Rahi beautifully summarizes: "We're shifting from orgasm to orgasmic states of being."
Ready to explore these practices with your partner? Visit DivineUnionForLovers.com to learn more about Ariel and Rahi's courses and retreats. You can also connect with Ariel at SacredMoonFlower.com and Rahi at SomaticSexualWholeness.com or through his "Organic Sexuality" podcast.
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