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The 1st Date Conversation That Changes Everything: Laurie Handlers’ Boundary-Forward Approach to Extraordinary Love

When you’ve spent over four decades as a teacher and author in sacred sexuality, you don’t just learn about pleasure—you learn what *really* keeps long-term relationships extraordinary, how to find love at any age, and why clear boundaries might be the hottest tool in your dating toolkit. International best-selling author Laurie Handlers joins Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown to share decades of wisdom, laugh-out-loud stories, and a dating conversation you’ll wish you had years ago.

Laurie is one of the lead facilitators at ISTA (International School of Temple Arts), author of Sex & Happiness: The Tantric Laws of Intimacy and Sex & Happiness: It Gets Better With Age, and creator of the Extraordinary Lovers Experience for singles and couples. Her advice? Be your own beloved, keep risking, and have the courage to speak truth—even when you’re nervous, even on the first date.

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IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL DISCOVER:

Laurie’s RBDSMTV system—a seven-point safer sex and intimacy conversation for first dates and beyond (Relationship status, Boundaries, Desires, Sexual health, Meaning, Trauma response, Vaccination status)
How to make “awkward” sex talks fun, simple, and transformative
Secrets to maintaining attraction and passion in long-term love (Laurie met her now-husband at 67!)
Why pleasure numbers, pain thresholds, and clear requests create more pleasure and less resentment
The power of ritual and mapping the body—how conscious touch and attunement keeps desire alive
Real stories from Laurie's journey with tantra meets BDSM, and how playing with edges can bring radical healing and connection

Laurie’s Extraordinary Lovers Experience and Sacred Sexuality Work

Laurie and her husband teach couples and singles how to break free from “Disney delusions,” handle differences and arguments with skill, and create legendary partnerships. Their programs weave tantra, modern psychology, boundary-setting, clear communication, and bold exploration—plus hands-on rituals so you’ll never settle for another DINS relationship (Double Income, No Sex).

The Boundary Revolution: Why This Is The HOTTEST Conversation in Modern Dating🚦

Boundaries aren’t just about saying no. They’re about knowing what you want, saying yes to yourself, and letting others know how you stay safe, open, and fully available for pleasure and connection. Laurie’s free gift, the Master Your Boundaries Workbook, makes it easy.

Learn how to deliver “no” as a complete sentence—with zero drama or explanation required
Discover the one ritual couples are using to communicate difficult truths (without retribution)
Get Laurie's exact questions for mapping your desires, needs, and sexual possibilities

Laurie’s Top Advice for Singles (Especially in Midlife & Beyond)

Be authentically you—bring your full self on the first date
Pleasure isn’t age dependent: keep your sexual energy moving every day, for yourself first and foremost
Let go of “the list” and Prince/Princess Charming fantasies. Be open to meeting in the here and now
Find your own beloved within; the great love you’re seeking often starts with you

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