Maya Kova and Guy Shahar Sex Reimagined Podcast

#149 | Same Toxic Patterns? | Maya Kova & Guy Shahar: How To Stop Attracting The Wrong People Using This Dating Method

Jul 21, 2025

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Guy Shahar and Maya Kova: How to Stop Attracting the Wrong People and Break Out of Toxic Dating Patterns With the 90-Day Relationship Experiment

Why Singles Are Choosing 7-Day Practice Relationships Over Dating Apps

The revolutionary program teaching singles how to master love through experimental dating. Guy Shahar recognized this exact problem in the dating world. Singles would come to his Tantra Speed Dating events, have amazing connections, then struggle to carry those skills into real-world dating. The answer? A revolutionary approach that treats relationship skills like any other skill, something you practice until you master it.

The Apartment Lease Revelation

Guy's "relationship by lease" insight flips the usual approach: instead of "forever," what if you committed to seven-day containers, then mindfully renewed or adjusted? This is the magic that powers the 90-Day Relationship Experiment, and it changes everything.

Dedicated Dating Coach Support

Every single participant gets a personal dating coach who helps them recognize patterns and blind spots throughout the 90 days.

"The goal is practice. You're gonna learn these skills, have an actual partner to practice them with, and then support that with tools and structures." — Guy Shahar

7-day practice relationships with random pairings (no matchmaking drama).
Dedicated dating coach for personalized feedback.
"Breaking Upwards" process that turns endings into growth celebrations.
Real relationship skills you can't learn from dating apps.

Tantra Speed Date: Authentic Relating in Real Life

Tantra Speed Date isn't just about romance. It's about learning authentic connection, communication, and tantric relating skills in a pressure-free, playful environment. Attendees have forged not just relationships and marriages, but lifelong friendships and breakthroughs.

To check for upcoming cities and events visit: Tantra Speed Date: All Dates

Why Practice Relationships Work (And How They Heal Patterns)

Short relationships, random pairings, and the focus on self-responsibility, not "finding the one" but learning to be the one, help break toxic cycles. Participants practice holding space, authentic communication, exploring intentions, boundary setting, intentional break-ups ("breaking upwards"), and more, getting to test, refine, and grow real-world relationship skills with real people, supported by an expert coaching team.

Real Results: Marriages, Babies, Friendships, and Radical Clarity

Guy and Maya's method has led to dozens of long-term relationships and happy marriages, plus huge breakthroughs even for those who don't stay together.

"You're learning how to get to know yourself in connection, not just alone. That's what real relating requires." — Maya Kova

What to Expect from the 90-Day Program:

12 or more experimental dates in the first month.
30, 60, and 90-day cycles with individual intention setting and reflection.
Support from a coach and peer community.
Hands-on tools to spot and break old dating patterns.
Celebratory closure and clear next steps at the end of each "lease."

Try the "Relationship Container Agreement"

A practical template to co-create relationship guidelines, track intention, and measure how well a partnership serves both participants. This method empowers you to change what's not working before burnout or drama, one practice relationship at a time.

Download a free sample and connect with Guy and Maya here: 90-Day Relationship Experiment: More Info and Waitlist